On this first day of our 15th year together as husband and wife, and 17th year as friends who built our relationship on a firm foundation of respect, I want to shout out to my husband and to the world at large, my elation for having been given the opportunity to have James A. Lacy as a partner-in-growth.
To my darling husband, I say, “ The Lord above” is at work 14 years after having blessed us with the abundant spirit of mutual love, respect, camaraderie, and satisfaction. Little did I know it would be you, who would personify the Angel that I knew “God had not as yet given birth to” – one that was deserving of, and most capable of reviving a half-way broken spirit, thus causing me to release and share all that was good, kind, gentle, respectful with another; one that would see the importance of dutifully assuming the role of the absolutely exceptional “Dad” you have been to our children who undoubtedly have benefited from interacting with you as an effective male role model.”
Still Smiling and Thankful 2 Years Later
It is an understatement to say that my other half has far exceeded the expectations of my then skeptical self with the manifestation of his understanding of love, legacy and commitment to family. That my parents embraced him as the son they “never birthed”, speaks volumes of this gentle giant who in turn has done nothing short of live up to their expectations.
The Lessons of this Love Affair
What a wonderful thing it is to be able to be so connected that we effortlessly finish each other’s sentences! This closeness, in addition to the exceptional courage my helpmate exudes in the midst of health challenges each and every day, has made our personal trials and tribulations less about us, and more about what we must do when it is our time and our turn to face the challenges of life with full awareness that “it” does not discriminate, and that “it” will stop at everyone’s doorstep sooner or later. This is a fact of life which, once embraced, changes perspectives on how we must conduct business in the Lessons of Life Department.
It is because we both know and appreciate this, that “woe is me” does not exist in our lexicon of life. That we have chosen to use the challenges of our life’s journey to inspire, empower and personify the spirit of gratitude and appreciation, will help keep the “for better or for worse, in sickness and in health” flame burning- not just for us, but for others who care to adopt this mindset.
I also dedicate this to other couples who are experiencing their share of adversity, and, again, here share the following tips that we developed for “When Adversity Strikes”:
9 years ago, as my father walked me down the aisle, my then soon-to-be husband serenaded me with the song he had written for the occasion, “SMILE FOR ME”. That, I must say, was a brilliant response to the creative use of the arts that really resonated with me. For, I have not once found a good reason not to smile for him since then. Needless to say, he did not ask me to do that which he was not willing to do for me in return. His smiles are still magical and we plan to keep them that way.
We have made it a point to “smile” through the ups and downs of life, knowing that we truly have each other’s back. Another element we can never lose a grip on, is RESPECT for each other. We both agreed well before we took our vows, that our marriage would not thrive on mutual love, devoid of mutual respect for each other. This I must say, makes for the strong bond we enjoy today.
On this our 9th wedding anniversary, we would like to offer our love and prayers to couples out there who are struggling to obtain a harmonious and loving relationship. It is our hope that you will take a moment to search for that which you and your spouse have in common and use that as a building block to a wonderful relationship. There are of course, other options such as help from your faith-based family or mental health practitioners.
Congratulations to those who are enjoying their moments together. Perhaps you could share some tips on what works for you.