Since I haven’t quite decided on a suitable term to adequately capture how I feel, I will settle for one that conveys the most predominant feeling right now. It is with humility that I embrace this time of my life, to reconnect with the world, and make a deliberate and significant stride toward normalcy since the recent passing of my father. As one who prides herself on being a perpetual student of life’s lessons, I must acknowledge a major loss such as this, as one which I have also viewed within the context of the psyche of Family Adult Caregivers around the world. I share your loss and feel your pain, even as I ‘hear’ my Papa urging me to keep the ball rolling, and to never lose sight of my goal! The drive to keep going should never leave us! I, not unlike a host of other adult children of the recently departed, have a lot to be thankful for when I take stock of the rich legacy my father left behind, not just for me, but for many others around the world. I feel ever so blessed!
Getting Back On Track
With the support of my Board, Program Director, Volunteers and Well-Wishers; I am looking forward to the upcoming Your Time For Community Networking Soiree – an opportunity for Long Island’s high school students, as well as current college-bound high school graduates, to experience an intergenerational professional and social relationship with a diverse pool of male and female community role models representing the arts, business & and professional world, academia, human services and local politics.
All Participants can look forward to interacting with an impressive line-up of motivational presenters and Resource Persons which includes current college students, professors, medical doctors, community activists and faith based leaders, mental health practitioners, and public officials – all of whom care about the well-being and academic success of our youth.
Other highlights include: lunch, entertainment, high tea, beauty and heath activities, giveaways and more!
If you have a burning desire to touch the lives of our youth in a special way, and would like to be a part of this initiative, kindly contact us.
For more details please visit our website: www.yourtime4liny.org
Most people will tell you they do not need to be told how to parent their children. While that may be the case, it is not unusual to find that these same parents have been wired to respond, more so, to the negative or destructive behaviors of their children than to the positives. What is unfortunate about zeroing in only on the negative, is that we lose out on the opportunity to provide a serious empowering process that our children can take with then as they step out into the world to become their own persons. By only responding to the negative, we also teach them not to acknowledge others who are doing their best to be productive citizens. These parents assume the posture that “this is what is expected of them, I don’t have to fuss over them for that”.
Luckily for us, we are now living in a society in which an inordinate amount of good and tailored options are offered to those who care to explore ways that do not keep them stuck at the “children are supposed to ‘do as I say’, and the ‘do because I said so’ culture”.
It is with all that I have said in mind, that I ask you to accommodate me while I publicly declare the elation and pride that I feel as the mother of Samuel Branch, of whom the article speaks. I am not only proud of my son for his passionate resolve to be the best that he can be in the field of graphic design, I am also proud of his friends who were at his senior show. Kudos to the students whose enthusiasm and sensitivity made the art installation process very much a part of the show. It was such a heart-warming experience to witness this! I must also congratulate Katie Webb, for an article so well-written. It is obvious that she herself is making full use of her education at Hofstra. It is clear that the parents have played a major role in making these young adults so worthy of the praise and admiration I so freely give. Congratulations to the parents!
I suspect there are many takes on Mommy and Daddy blessings out there. Please feel free to share yours.
Last, but not least, I must acknowledge my husband, Samuel’s Dad, without whose ‘One James’ peach cobbler, the show would not have been complete.
FORM: Sam Branch’s graphic design senior show
Posted by hofstra chronicle on Saturday, December 14, 2013.
By Katie Webb Arts & Entertainment Editor
Vibrant, color-blocked, mosaic images composed of 35 sheets that are 11 inches by 17 incheson the walls of the this week, Dec. 9–13. The , “Vector Variegations,” is the senior art show of fine arts major Samuel Branch.
Saturday’s event echoed my words, “Come dance with me and I will make you
Fishers of Men.”
I saw them wonder.
I saw their flicker of anticipation.
I saw their shadows fade.
Their opened minds,
Freedom of speech.
I saw them – comfortable within themselves,
Relaxed in their huddles.
They spoke of the “who” they could become.
They focused on self, their awakening.
And wowed themselves by discovering
That yes, there were gifts sealed within.
Yes, they could ignite the spark,
Yes, they could take flight,
Yes, they could become……………….
F. Bell (4/22/13)
Yesterday, I responded to news of a husband and wife murder-suicide and 4 innocent surviving child victims in a community where I have lived for over 20 years.
I woke up this morning to find that the North Bellmore School District had taken the lead with a public statement on how they intend to support the true victims of this seemingly senseless and selfish act that has disrupted the lives of their students. This got me thinking about ways the community can honor and embrace these children.
As updates begin to unfold the ‘facts’ of the ‘case’, there is an outpouring of sentiments expressed by community members. One such person, Laurie, commented, “there are indeed no words or donations that can help these kids”. Even as I subscribe to this thinking too, I believe there must be something else a community can do alongside other initiatives earmarked for the children that could bring about a meaningful change. Recognizing that this travesty can happen in any community around the world, I feel compelled to write this version of my post to the Bell more Patch, to address those outside the confines of the North Bellmore community.
What comes to mind in terms of a meaningful change would require us to change our way of thinking. As a community, we must do our very best to operate in the “brother’s/sister’s keeper” mode. We must resolve to refrain from turning a blind eye to dysfunctional behavior and seek help …even for our neighbors.
We are indeed our brothers’ and sisters’ keepers. This, of course, will call for us to be honest with ourselves and take the proverbial moat out of our own eyes first. I cannot at the moment think of a better way to work towards ensuring that horrific happenings such as this one become a thing of the past. It is a given that education, is a necessary tool in this process. People need to know what to do, where to go, and how things work in general.
Please feel free to offer your ideas on how we can go about developing and maintaining a mentally and emotionally sound community in the name of 4 children who have some challenging times ahead…no matter what.